I have been doing a little thinking about forgiveness (it is one of my favorite F words ;) In terms of physical and emotional health, one of the best things you can ever do for yourself is to wipe your slate clean. A way to do this is to forgive. Dr. Phil (ugh, I know.. I promise you, I don't watch the show that often) has these life laws and one pertains to forgiveness:
"Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself."
He ain't wrong, folks. I have forgiven many times over in my life, sometimes without the other person even being aware of it. It is deeply personal to each and every one of us . It can occur swiftly and naturally or be buried bone deep, under layers of pain. There is no timeline to follow as to when to forgive, but I do think it is a necessity in order to live a joyful, spiritual, and truthful life. I hope just as I have extended forgiveness to others, I too have been forgiven for my transgressions.
A few more quotes I found on forgiveness:
"The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world." -Marianne Williamson
"Forgiveness is not saying that what they did was okay; it's just saying that we refuse to hold the pain of what they did in our hearts any longer."-from a blog on TinyBuddha